Read this featured blog post by Patti Height.
A growing number of people in the gay community are identifying themselves as "gay” Christians. I can understand why. Just because a person is gay doesn't mean that they don't want to love God, or, even better, that they don’t want to be loved by Him. Everyone wants to believe that God loves them. The beautiful truth is that God does love them—He loves the gay community! And it is because of His love that He desires them to live according to His will and His plan for their lives.
God gives the same opportunity for salvation to everyone, regardless of their sexual orientation. All a person needs to do is to repent and believe in Jesus. Whether a person is gay or straight isn’t really the issue. The issue is have they believed in Jesus!
The Bible teaches that every person is born in sin. So ALL of us need a Savior. “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). Salvation comes by agreeing with God about our sin, and receiving Jesus as Lord and Savior. As it says in Romans 10:9-10, “if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.”
However, a Christian isn’t someone who confesses with their mouths, believes in their hearts, and then continues to live as recklessly as they did before. True faith is motivated by a desire to follow Jesus, and that produces a changed life. A person who continues to live a lifestyle of sin is not motivated by that same desire. They are motivated by their own desires. Nothing has changed.
In 2 Corinthian's 5:15, 17 Paul wrote, “He died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again...Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”
So, a Christian is a “new creation.” They have been born again. In John 3:1-8, Jesus explained what it meant to be born again to a Jewish religious leader. In the Gospels, He also taught His disciples what it meant to be a new creation. True believers are those who are willing to take up their crosses and follow Him. The cross was a symbol of death. Jesus wasn’t asking His disciples to die, physically, but he was asking them to be willing to put to death every desire of the flesh and follow Him. (Matthew 10:39-39, Mark 8:34-35, and Luke 9:23-24)
Every person who desires to follow Christ will begin to shed those things that are not pleasing to Him. That transformation is a new way of life. The Epistles give us an even deeper understanding of the transforming reality of the Christian faith.
Galatians 2:20: “I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.”
Colossians 3:3: “For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.”
Galatians 6:14: “But God forbid that I should boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world.”
In these passages Paul defines the transformed life as one that is no longer alive to “self” but is now living for God. It is a life that is characterized by change—one that is no longer motivated by pleasing self, but by pleasing God.
Therefore, to bear the name of Christian is to declare, “I am willing to put to death everything that is not of Jesus.” Anyone who choses to call themselves a “gay” Christian is declaring something different. They are saying that their “first” identity is in their flesh—specifically in their sexuality—not in Christ. By adding the worldly identity of “gay” before their godly identity, they are clearly saying that they are living for themselves and not for God.
Worldly identities oppose the life of Christ. To hold on to them reveals that a person is tethered to the things of this world. The Bible says we are to, "put off the old man and put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness” (Ephesians 4:17-24). As John the Baptist declared… “He must increase and I must decrease!”
So, no, I do not believe a person can be actively living a gay lifestyle and also be actively living as a Christian (according to Biblical standards). The reason I believe this is because these are two opposing lifestyles, and it is simply impossible to walk in two different directions at the same time.